unplugging...and finding true connection

If you've followed me anywhere for any length of time, you've most likely heard me say (at least once) that I firmly believe that what we do with every other area of our lives directly affects how creative (and how happy) we will be.

I could go on and on about this, recommending books and videos to supplement this idea I've only quickly mentioned here, but I'll try to get right to the point: happiness comes first. With anything. With creating, with life, with careers, and relationships. Every time we try to look for fulfillment from these things themselves, we turn up empty-handed. We can't find fulfillment in those things alone. Fulfillment comes from within and that is where we truly find happiness.

Now as to how we do this exactly - finding happiness and fulfillment within our beings - I am not an authority, but I am a student. My wildly scribbled field notes suggest that gratitude has a lot to do with it. (I'll list a couple of videos at the bottom of this post, which I highly recommend you watch after reading for more on this concept.)

Finding gratitude...for me, I have to quiet down. I have to unplug from what noise there may be in my life - noise like the beeps and pings of phones and computers, social media, or tv. These are distractions; "hey look at me!" that's all they have to say, and yet, how much value have these things sincerely added to our lives?

My phone lives in my satchel, charged and turned off, ready to be used in case I need to get in touch with family when I go out. My laptop is set-up not to receive any distracting notifications during the day. I have no social media apps, and update social media mindfully through a planner, checking up on friends through messages and emails instead of scrolling through a cluttered feed.

Certainly not trying to "toot my own horn" here, I am just trying to make a point: we live in a world that wants YOUR WORLD, your personal world, to be a cluttered one by default. We have to choose clarity and quiet with robust intention.

I believe that it's within that quiet, that absence of clutter and noise that we find peace and stillness: what is real. What connects us to gratitude - what I mean is simply being quiet and open enough to even notice how much we have to be grateful for. Including that breath you just took.

For me, this helpful process does not end with unplugging, just as stopping a bad habit doesn't automatically start us on a new, good habit. I can't just unplug from something without actively connecting to something else.

Yesterday I was thinking about this as I trekked through the woods; quiet footsteps beneath canopies of sunlit birches and pines. It was so quiet out there...at least, we call it quiet. What we mean is, all of our noises aren't there: the clicks and beeps. Really, the forest is teeming with a chorus that my words can hardly contain here: the chirrup of crickets, the twitter of the cardinals, wrens, and chickadees, the hushed trickling of a mountain stream tumbling into a pond cupped in the palm of the valley below. The wind whispering "shhhhh" to our minds, our hearts.

I stood beside a cluster of conifers, touching their soft branches with my fingertips, standing there in silence for a moment. I could actually feel their presence - the space they took up, the energy they emulated. It was incredible.

Everything has a presence, nature is filled with it. And I've found that being out in it connects me not only to the earth, but to something much deeper and more profound in myself. Something I want to explore more, and become more aligned with.

I don't like to try to pin down these feelings and experiences in words, but I think that it's all an invitation - a declaration that there is so much more here than we realized. That so much is waiting to be explored inside of us. That there is something so real lying just below the surface of all the noise and clutter we've created. Just like plunging into a quiet mountain lake - everything silences to stillness...serenity. And it invites us to truly listen.

I hope you had a chance to get out into nature this weekend, my friend. And if not, I hope you'll enjoy the video offerings below that delve into some of these topics a little more. May they offer you a breath of fresh air today!

On gratitude:

On unplugging & getting into nature:

Do you enjoy unplugging and getting out into nature? Where do you feel most at home in nature? What speaks to you? I would love to hear about your personal practice and experiences below if you would like to share. 🙏💛🌿

stay stoked,

unplugging...and finding true connection
  1. Hello!

    Thank you for this post! I have never had social media, actually, and I'm very happy that I don't. However, it is still really nice to not check my email or even this blog or to not stare at a screen for awhile and just draw or read or go outside! My sister and I like to go to the creek and we have a lot of fun!!! #thebesttimes

    I'm going to be honest, though, the reason I'm commenting is not because I was jumping up and down with joy over this post. The true reason is that I want to get to know people and make friends and join a community or create a community of my own! I write poetry, and I haven't really been able to find a community or make friends with people like me! So, I would love to chat and see your poetry, and I would love it if you would check out my stuff and maybe introduce me to other people who are like me!!!!

    Thank you so much!!!


    1. Kate-
      I found your work on Youtube. I really enjoy your video(s) and found my way to this blog.
      I could speak or write for hours, days - longer on the value of disconnecting.
      You said: "My phone lives in my satchel, charged and turned off, ready to be used in case I need to get in touch with family when I go out".
      - Well, my flip phone, resides in my car, off.
      And since that became a "lifestyle" I feel much more free and relaxed!
      Informed, but not edgy. Content with JOMO. The Joy of Mission out.
      I started a website / blog and write (as best I can) about these subjects as well.
      Nice to "meet you", your a neighbor (In In New Hampshire)

  2. New to your blog. Happened to hear you and your Sista on YouTube! Your attitude of gratitude, abounds with healthy confidence!

    Right now a sad happening in one of our states. Colorado. The wilderness is a blaze and ash is reported to of been 40,000 feet into the air.
    I do hope a new and improved way of putting out fires is implemented as we have been putting out fires the same way for years now. I remember the old black & white tv shows where the community rang a bell and every one grabbed bucks of water. Seems we've not progressed much from those days as every chopper grabs a few gallons of water tossing in chemicals when called for.
    What do you think is up and coming to save our natural forest?

    Once again I love your attitude of gratitude! Kate you & Abbie must have quality parents and you both complement them with who you are.

    Thanks for your YouTubing & Blogging!

    Good Days too Y'all! With an attitude of gratitude,
    Ginger Sky

  3. Im verily kornfuzed, dear.
    You say we need to live as
    one with nature... yet,
    1-outta-1 bites-the-dust.
    Then, where? For our soul
    which is quite indelible
    has no Home but Upstairs.
    Yet, if we reject Jesus
    outta our own FREE WILL,
    sHe'll utterly respect
    that N send U.S. downtown
    to the realm we dont wanna.
    Lemme tella youse summore
    without d'New Joisey accent:
    ♡ en.gravatar.com/MatteBlk ♡
    Love you.
    Cya soon.

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